YAF,

I’m currently a college student and am a passionate learner. I’ve noticed that I tend to speak up more often than my fellow classmates. Recently it has become a concern of mine that I come off as a “know it all.” How can I speak my mind and ask legitimate questions without annoying anyone in my class?

 

 

Dearest student of life, lover of learning, princess of pursuit…

I have a few points to impart:

1) You are BRILLIANT. You are yearning. You are curious. This is a gift, and if anyone resents it, that is sad, for they are dead inside and you are truly living.

2) If you’re trying to make friends, stop that now. Friends are only useful if they’re convenient, supportive, and likeminded, and these classmates just might not make the cut. NBD.

3) Education is an expensive endeavor these days, and if some fool in your class is taking college for granted whilst slumping in their chair and eye-rolling the eager, then they are doing the next closest thing to throwing money into a raging river.

 

On other notes:

Are you sharing space well?

Are you letting others speak?

Do you believe that other people have questions worth asking, and thoughts worth sharing?

 

Do you think you’re smarter than your classmates?

 

Even if you are, sorta, it’s not cute to be pompous, no matter the circumstance. Trust me, I know it can be weirdly exhausting to try and glean lessons from witnessing the idiocy of humanity, and I don’t suggest spending excessive hours doing this, but it will ultimately further you to experience the ACTUAL intelligence (or lack thereof) of your fellow mortals. Come back to EARTH, darling INTELLECTUALOID!

 

What I’m also kind of saying here is: if no one has said, to your face, that you’re acting like a “know it all,” then why would you have this thought? Perhaps because you DO think, on some level, that you know it “all?”

 

The Truth: However wise you may be, you will NEVER know it all, and teachers appear to us in many different forms. Could be a classmate this time, an 85 year old ex-Amish cartographer next time, and a wilted black tulip the time after that. You get the point. So, start with you. Get your assumptions in check. Then, you won’t have time, need, nor care about what others are thinking. Maybe you can even get back to learning—the curriculum and then some, perhaps?

 

xo,

YAF